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Me? Worry?

Tuesday, November 11

If you could permanently get rid of one worry, what would it be?

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Well, this one is a tough one.  I guess, being a mother, there could be a whole slew of worries that would be great if they were non-existent.  I could worry that I haven’t given them the tools they need to move forward, that I didn’t give them enough of my time, that I gave too much; that I was too strict, not strict enough… But that is part and parcel of parenthood.  We worry, we do the best we can, hope for the best and send them off into the world.

I could take the easy way out and say it would be great to have no financial worries but that isn’t one I have.  Mick is a hustler and will go out and find ways to make the necessary cash.  I’ll do what I can.  We’ll always do what needs to be done.  It’s just who we are.

I could say not worry about infidelity but we don’t have that issue.  We are both of the opinion that if the other strays, no amount of acting jealous and mistrusting the other will stop it from happening.  Plus, neither one of us is interested in the “devil we don’t know”!  We’ve invested 19 years in this relationship so far and it is based on trust so… this one is out.

I could say get rid of the worry of getting old but the alternative is not truly an option I would choose!  I know way too many who didn’t even make it to 50 so I’m sure they would have wasted less time on worrying about lines and sags and living whilst they could instead of leaving this earth so soon.

Worrying about not having enough is foolish.  We already have way too much stuff as it is.  We don’t need more to be better people.  Doesn’t mean we can’t strive to better our situation or living conditions, if that were the case, but not important enough to worry about.

So, what worry would I truly like to get rid of?  Have it no longer part of my psyche, my thoughts, my dreams?  My biggest worry is that I will never find myself enough.  I’m getting there.  I’m working on it.  I am trying so hard not to worry about it because deep, DEEP, DEEP down I know is there is little kernel of truth, waiting, for when I am ready to believe it; just waiting to pop so that I know for sure.

18 thoughts on “Me? Worry?

  1. Writing this was a good reflective exercise for you! If I could toss in one little tidbit …. Only worry about what one can control. A bit simplistic, but strong on meaning.

    • It was indeed aFA, and as I was lying sleepless in bed last night, I thought of other things I could have added. Yes, absolutely worry only about what one can control – eliminates a whole slew of things, eh?

      • When a person tells me that they hate when it rains, I respond with “Well, tell it to stop.” Because the weather won’t listen to their request, then I say, “Then don’t worry about it.” ….Another one is the artificial high of TGIF sets one up with OCIM … Oh Crap It’s Monday. That is – life has enough ups and downs, so why add unnecessary ones.

        • Absolutely! I do the same thing! We’re stuck in traffic and hubs is getting ever more frustrated. I love to tell him: “OK, so what do you want to do about it? What can you control? Nothing! So, let’s just talk about stuff or listen to the music and just go with the flow…(even if it’s really slow!)

  2. This is thought-provoking, Dale. Far too many of us worry about things we can’t control – it’s true. I wish you well in coming closer to cracking that elusive little kernel of self. Lovely photo – a picture of happiness with no worries! PS: just noticed you’re on Twitter – I can manage that better than WordPress these days, so I’ll pop over there or follow you now.

    • Yes, Janet, it is. I decided to sign up for NaBloPoMo (kinda like the NaNoWriMo for bloggers) to push myself to go outside of my comfort level. So far, I think I’ve been nudged!
      Yes, it is a challenge. Me too, slowly getting there! xoxo

  3. Dale, as an expert worrier, I’d love to have your approach to things. As for finding yourself ‘enough’ ~ sure that’s what life is all about ~ the search not the finding?

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