Wednesday is here and I have to rush out to go to work. Ugh. There is a mountain of snow in front of my door and the white stuff is still falling!
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Genre: True Story
It Is Time
As Nicole approached her father’s hospital room, she overheard him speaking.
“How long will I live once you turn off the oxygen?”
“About ten minutes,” she replied.
“Okay then, we are doing it today.”
“Hang on there, sir, that is a horrid way to go. We can’t just turn it off without preparation!”
“Well, I’m done. I want it done today. It’s been long enough. It is time.”
“If you are absolutely sure, we will prepare you so that you go gently.”
Nicole walked away from the door and called her sisters, sobbing, “You have to come to the hospital…”
Hope they have time to say goodbye. Such a sad story.
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Yes we did… will be 4 years ago this May.
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{{{ Hugs }}}
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Thank you, kind lady! 😘
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Aww Dale! Big hugs X
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Thanks, Louise
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Dear Dale,
How incredibly sad. At least he’s choosing to go and not linger…still… Mixed emotions here. The mark of a well written story.
Shalom,
Rochelle
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Ah, now I see this is factual. I shoulda know’d. Doubly emotional. Hugs to you my friend.
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Yep. My father.
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Thank you, kind lady! Yes. How often can one make such a choice? Especially with laws prohibiting…
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Arms around you.
Tight.
XOXRRR
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Thanks, Darlin’! He was a character and a half, that one…
XOXOD
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A heart-wrenching time. Well said.
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Thank you, Roger
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I feel for you dear, been there..let’s remember the good times 🙂
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Always! There are so many…😙
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Heart breaking. Weldone.
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Thank you, Tamal
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Only a strong character can control the life they lead and live.
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That is for sure! And he had loads!!
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Very good – A big theme covered adeptly…
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Thank you, Martin!
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Oh, so horrible. So sad. so REAL! well told.
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Thank you, Jellico! It was very real!
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😦
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“Genre: True Story” – I am very sorry. It is a very emotional story, but a thousand fold more so knowing it is true.
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Thank you, Trent. It was a sad day but man, how many people can make that decision? He went on his own terms.
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My Dad’s latest test results say that his cancer has spread throughout his body including his liver. I don’t know how long he has, even with treatment.
Yeah…just yeah.
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That was my dad’s case too. Lung cancer that spread. Treatments that didn’t work. He wanted no heroics and decided on his own that it was time.
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So sad.
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And yet…he was able to make his own choice…
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At least he got to make the choice for himself, and a strong one at that. A sad time. Best wishes.
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Exactly. He was done…
Thanks!
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Even knowing it’s coming, you wish it wasn’t. Then, afterward, living in the void. I don’t know how we go on. Poorly, I suppose. At least, I’ve not done it well. You’re very strong to be able to write so clearly about it. I think you’ve touched something universal in all of us who’ve lived through it and foreshadowed the event for those who have yet to suffer it. Terrific story, Dale.
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Thank you so much, Kecia! I think when you’ve seen the person suffer, you just have to put aside your ego and support them. He smiled up until he was unconscious (even cracking jokes between morphine shots…)
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I had flashbacks to when a friend with ALS announced he wanted his respirator shut down so he could go in peace.
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Wow… I can’t say I blame him…
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This hearbreakingly sad, Dale. And yet, you had the chance to say good-bye and knew that this was what he wanted. Very well told.
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Thank you, Ms Gabriele! It was indeed.
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So sad, at least he was able to take some control at the end. Hard too for those who are left behind, we want to hold on to those we love as long as possible but not at the price of prolonging their suffering
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Exactly. We have to think of them no matter how much we want them around…
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You’ve had more than your share of heartaches, Dale. This one moved me.
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I figure I’ve had enough for a good while. Thank you for your kind words.
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That poor woman… I know the dad is the one doing the dying, but to hear it like that and to know that nothing can be done makes me want to sob too. Like others have suggested, I hope the family can say goodbye.
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We did. All three Sisters, his spouse and his stepson….😊
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Good. I’m sure his super-strong-and-stubborn soul is looking down with pride… and peace.
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We like to think so!!
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Great story.
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Thanks
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A fine memorial. Thank you Dale.
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Thanks, Carl
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A beautiful but sad time but He had the strength and courage to go out in his own terms. God Rest his soul.
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Thank you George. Takes lots strength to make such a decision. He got what he wanted.
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Never easy … and difficult to accept even if the right decision. Peace to your memories.
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True. But having watched him suffer, all the while keeping his smile, we had to accept and be there for him.
Thank you, Frank
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Absolutely.
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😙
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I can’t imagine how it must have felt for you to hear that.
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It was my youngest sister who overheard. Thankfully we all live close to each other and were able to rallye…
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I feel for you, Dale. When my father died he was so far gone with infection and drugs we had to make the decision for him for treatment to be withdrawn. It was awful, but the medication was just prolonging things for him. It was his time. I’m so glad you could be there with you father and he knew you were there at the end. That’s what stays with you, isn’t it? All the best to you and thank you for sharing such a hard tale to tell
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Thank you, Lynn. Yes, in all this it was great he could make that decision. A year and a half later I had to make it for my husband who was not.
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I’m so sorry you had to do that Dale. So much sadness in such a short span of time too. Best wishes
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Thanks, Lynn.
C’est la vie!
I’ll keep on smiling!
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All the best
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😙
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What a terrible thing to overhear. I hope they arrive in time.
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They do!
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Oh, Dale. That’s gut-wrenching. At least it was his decision. He told the illness that ‘he’ and not ‘it’ would decide when he went. Love and hugs, to you. He would be proud of you, if he could see you four years’ on, doing so well. xox.
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Thank you so much, Sarah! Yes, on his terms all the way! We feel privileged to have been a part of it.
xoxo
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That’s very sad, I hope I have the fortitude to do the same if I end up in that situation. Hard on those left but he went on his own terms which is slim consolation
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Same here! Then again, I did inherit his genes so… 😊
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Well done. I felt his strength and conviction, as well as your pain.
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Thank you. So very kind of you to say!
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That was a hard day for you and your family. Thanks for sharing your sadness, courage and love.
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Thanks for reading!
It was hard…
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That takes courage. To do, to witness, and to write. I hope sharing it brings you comfort.
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You know what? It really does! Thank you…
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Very few get to make that choice on their own. Thanks for sharing such a personal story. To quote Frank Sinatra, he did it, “My Way.”
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That he did!
Thanks for reading, Russell!
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How very sad – the more so because it is true. He sounds like a man who knew his own mind. Hugs x
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It was a sad day indeed but you know, he would not have had it any other way. He had decided a while back and let us know it would be his choice. He just waited till he thought we were ready…
Thank you!
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OMG, what a story! But I understand.
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Thank you, Cecilia!
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your dad was very special. when it’s my time, that’s how i want to go too.
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He was. Imagine, he didn’t want to prolong our suffering…
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Thanks for sharing this. So did this remind you of a clock (time) and your Dad? Or the hospital grounds?
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It was all about the time. He was getting fed up of living like he was and had pondered it for a while. And then on May 23 decided that was enough.
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What a great generation.
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very poignant
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Thank you.
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Sounds like a tough old fellow. Hope the family made it in time.
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Yes. We were with him all day…
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I think we all wish we could decide when and how we will to go.
This is touching, Dale. I thought it was fiction but see by the comments of others that it’s more personal. Thank you for shring your personal journey. BIG HUGS to you ….
Isadora 😎
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Gracias Isadora. Yes, 4 years ago this coming May…
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🙏🏻
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Moving flash, and from the comments it’s based on personal experience. What a heartbreaking moment. So sad and yet so brave. 💗
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Thank you, Luccia! So nice of you to say…
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I visualize needles and guilt vs a really scary suffocation right in front of the whole family. These things are never pretty.
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It was scary to witness and he was so sedated there was barely a reaction but there was one…
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Oh no! So sad
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Thank you, Laurie… it was but it was for the best…
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Moving and sad. But think about it this way, he went out when he wanted it, a choice that most will never get to make.
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Absolutely! Total respect for his choice!
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I hope they allowed him to go gently.
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They absolutely did.
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What a sad story about your father. I’m glad, however, that he went on his own terms. Thanks for sharing this with us, Dale.
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Thank you for your kind comment, Margarisa.
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You’re welcome, Dale. 😊
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