I’m not one to do the “woe is me” thing and this is definitely not one of them. It is, however, the fourth anniversary of my “two weeks of WTF” that started on the 11th and ended on the 27th. I can laugh and talk about Mick all the time with nary a tear but at this time of the year, there is more of a tightness in the chest, so to speak.
So, now that I got that out of the way, thank you to Rochelle for hosting this weekly challenge and this week, thanks (again) to Doug MacIlroy for allowing us to use (re-use for some) this lovely photograph.
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The Little Moments
“Good God! How you can work with that stuff you call music blaring?” I yelled.
“I like it, helps me to draw. Keeps me in the groove.”
Shaking my head, I went back to writing my Friday Fictioneers story, while chatting on Facebook with my buddy Rochelle. A new message pops up:
“Yo, Rog, what’s for lunch?”
“Dunno, Mick, hadn’t thought of it.”
“Let’s go out!”
“Lemme guess, The Cage?”
“Ya baby! Meet me downstairs!”
“Lemme finish my story, first!”
“Gonna let me read it?”
“Of course. You’re my muse again.”
These little moments are what I miss the most.
Beautiful memory, Dale.
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Thank you, John.
He used to do that to me all time. He needed a break, he’d text me! Funny guy…
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Sounds like a true friend as well as partner.
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Absolutely, John. We had so much fun – most of the time (one must be realistic, too 😉)
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Yes. There is always a little of that.
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Of course. One must be honest even if they are gone 😉
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Especially if they are gone.
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True! I’m always amazed when people are remembered as perfect…. ummm…Don’t think so.
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Sometimes the imperfections are the jewels in the crown. (At least in my case I hope so)
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They are, I totally agree!
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🙂
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Difficult to find the words Dale. It is indeed those little moments that end up meaning the most.
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Thanks, Iain. They are the memories that bring a smile to my face.
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First off, sending you a hug. Second, Mick sounds like fun. Knowing you loved him, he must have been a ball of fun. Hold those memories and keep marching. You always inspire me . . .
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He was a hoot and a half. Very fun-loving.
That I do, my friend, that I do!
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Hugs first … shoulder next (it’s a skinny one, but it still counts for something …). And … yes, dear Dale, it’s the small moments that hold so much meaning, isn’t it? I didn’t know this period of time was especially difficult in THAT way (though goodness knows holidays can be, with any kind of loss, for all too many, amplified as holiday-stuff can be), and I’m so so sorry. As a five-year-old I know once said after loving a loved one: “I think being sad is a kind of loving.”
Hugs again, Na’ama
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Thanks for your skinny shoulder! The small moments are the best. The man kept me laughing, no doubt. Don’t be sorry. It was a good 20 years.
Lotsa love, Dale
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I’m sorry for the pain, not for the good 20 years … 🙂 And … Am glad for the small moments that matter, cuz them do!
Hugs (these skinny arms can squeeze!)
Na’ama
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Pain is part of appreciating the joy. I’m good.
They do fer sher!
Squeeze away! 😘
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Gotta love Freud .. it was supposed to be “after losing a loved one…” (or was it?)
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LOL! All good!!
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🙂 I’m fluent in Freudian slips … 😉
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So’m I… must be why we get along!
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A little bit of real life. Very touching. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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Thank you, Trent. Yep. I went there. Again 😉
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Hey Trent!
I wanted to leave a comment on your Friday Fictioneer post and there is no comment box??
What up, Buttercup?
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That is odd… No wonder nobody has commented today! I just went in and I think I fixed it. Thanks for letting me know 🙂
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I was surprised… so I looked at your previous post and there was the comment box. Felt I had to ask.
Hopefully some will come back!! I know I will 😁
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This was a post that didn’t want to go up. I clicked publish several times before it decided to actually publish. Something must have been broken from the beginning. Oh well, I guess I can stop wondering why this story was so unpopular 😉
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Shoot. Well I just checked and I will be able to leave a comment which I will!!
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Thanks for sharing the memory, Dale, and for sure it’s the little things that mean so much, as do the big, but it seems tiny, seemingly inconsequential things do have a way of popping up and kicking you in the gut when you least expect. You clearly loved each other like crazy. Enough said by me. For now.
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Thank you, sweet Jilly! Little, big, all good. The gut ones are the once that sneak up on you!
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Beautiful stuff Dale, it is indeed the little things.
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Thank you, kind Sir!
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And I do know what you mean, on both counts.
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😊
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It’s so nice that you can have such happy memories
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It really is.
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Dammit Dale,
I knew as soon as I saw your linkz photo I was going to have to nab a tissue. Yup, I was right. Made me smile to be the one you were chatting with. You truly inspire me, my friend.
Shalom and multiple hugs,
Rochelle
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Dammit Rochelle,
You should have expect it at this time of year! Hope you smiled too… And yeah, why not be chatting with you… not like it ever happens, eh?
Lotsa love and hugs back!
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It’s okay to be a “woe is me” someone sometimes. You wrote a beautiful piece and the little memories are the most important to hold on to. It sounds like you had many of those with Mick. I am sorry for the pain you experienced and hope your holiday time with family and friends is filled with lots of love and laughter!
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Thank you, Brenda. I’ll concede to having a moment of wistful sadness but that shall be replaced by my usual enjoy life attitude. We had lots of fun and no worries lots of love with family will be had. No worries.
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That’s good to hear. 🙂
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Thank you for writing a story that is happy and sad, humorous and serious, intimate and universal. It’s a beautiful transmutation of daily life into pure gold.
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Thank you for your wonderful comment. I did want to focus on the humorous and happy!
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As the years pass, memories like that will bring more smiles than anything. Tis nice to have such memories, even though they bring tears.
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They already do. And not too often come with tears. Just during this month 🙂
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Dale, I think this is perhaps the most touching post you’ve ever done about him. You have wonderful memories that can’t be erased by death. Hugs to you.
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Thank you, Linda. Crazy guy used to do that to me all the time.
I do. And they won’t ever be.
Hugs accepted and returned.
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Peace to you during this time. I know you’ll keep your chin up … so, more wine for the lady!
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Thank you, kind sir. Just so happen I am pouring myself a glass as we “speak”!
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That a way … Think I’ll join you … clink in one min.
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Excellent! Salute!
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Dale,
We all have that person in our lives who was that simultaneous beat, that rhythmic step, that divine echo. Yours left much too soon, but his memory lives on, like a fine mist to the senses.
Blessings, peace, love and most of all, those wonderful memories that keep your feet grounded and your heart airborne.
Marc
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Marco,
How can you words bring tears to my eyes when my own words don’t?
Peace,, love, and friends who have just the right words,
Dale
xo
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To blessings such as those. Hear Here! 🙂
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I am definitely feeling blessed… Here! Hear and let us Cheer!! 😉
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That’s a pretty hip hooray you got going! (See what I did there?) 😉
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Yes, yes I did… That’s why I keep ya around 😉
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Ayt then! Imma keep doing ma thang! 😉
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Please do.
I love ya to bits for it xoxo
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December was always a favorite month of mine. Naturally being the holidays, it always brought a sense of joy. The excitement and anticipation of downtime with family and friends, happy children, gifts, and all the other fun and joy associated with Christmas.
This all changed 4 years ago when Mick passed away. December lost its lustre and there is instead an extra sense of loss and sadness when the month comes rolling in. They say time heals everything and although that may be true. I can’t say I will ever stop missing my friend Mick.
Thank you Dale as always for sharing. Sending you lots of hugs and love.
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Same for me, Paul.
Mick was the most enthusiastic guy about all holidays, Christmas especially. Between him being gone and the boys total lack of enthusiasm, it has become beyond lacklustre.
Everyone still misses him. Everyone.
Lots of love to you and the girls. xoxo
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The little precious moments fill the heart with joy.
I hate music blaring when i am reading or writing.
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Absolutely, they do.
And so do I!!
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Awwww, that was so beautiful and precious Dale. A biiiiig hug to you!
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Thank you, Anurag!
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A lovely tribute and a touching memory, Dale. December always seems such a bitter-sweet month to me, ostensibly a happy time but a stark reminder of happier times. Well done.
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Thank you, Sandra. December has become that to me.
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Lovely, it is always the little things we miss.
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So very true. Things we take for granted.
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I can feel your loss in this little moment recalled. ❤
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Some days hit you when you don’t expect it. Mind you, come.this time of year, it can’t be avoided. 💖
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Dale, I’ll be thinking of you in the next few weeks. Grieving is a long, hard process.
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Thank you, sweet lady. I’m mostly ok. Just get nostalgic and lonely at this time..
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Sweet story. I’m glad you can turn your pain into something so beautiful.
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Thanks, Dawn. I’m so glad I have writing. It helps!
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Such a sweet story, Dale. I feel you: the little moments are just as important in their own way as all those “big” moments. Maybe even more so. ❤
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Thank you, Joy. Yes, they are. 💖
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Wiping a tear, sending a hug.
It is those small moments and memories. I’m glad he made you laugh–and that you can remember that. ❤
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Tear not, I’ll take the hug and yea, there was much laughter.
Can’t even try to forget it (nor would I want to).
💖
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Thanks for sharing a heart rendering memory into a story that causes us all to stop for a moment and reflect on our own memories. The good thing is we hope we have so many good ones that it helps negate the bad ones. Well done. I hope you find peace in the wonderful memories you had.
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Thank you, Jan. It’s those little moments that sneak up and remind me how much good we had and yes, makes the not so bad not so important.
I am quite at peace. Thank you!
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like they say, to be remembered is to live forever.
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Indeed, it is true.
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I’m…. beginning to understand.
I send love and affection, and ………..
I send love and affection.
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Thank you, Resa.
Love and affection are always accepted….
And returned xo
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xo
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A great story and touching memory. Thanks for sharing such a fun read Dale!
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Thank you, Russell. So very glad you enjoyed!
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Thank you so much for this little window into your world.
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Thank you, Violet. Much appreciate your reading.
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There’s nothing I can say that hasn’t been said. Thank you for sharing this with us Dale.
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And I thank you for reading, Keith.
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Ah, what a sweet post.
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Thank you, dear Russell
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Lovely. Why do these things so often happen at Christmas? I could name a few in my life too X
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Thank you, Liz. I dunno. A friend of mine on Christmas day and my grandmother exactly 5 years, to the day before my hubs.
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Thanks for sharing this. For one brief moment today I thought ‘Got to get Mom and Dad’s presents out in the mail.’ Then, yes, that tightening in the chest. Well done. Hugs and kisses to you, my friend.
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Then some good came out of it! It’s a good thing.
Hugs and kisses, right back.
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This is really beautiful Dale.
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Thank you, Lisa
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What a loving tribute. You brought tears to my eyes. Hugs to you.
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Thank you, Jo. Was more aiming for a smile…
Hugs received and returned!
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A very moving description of those little things that mean so much Dale.
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Thanks, Andrea. I like to share the sweet moments. They make me smile.
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Sorry for your loss, Dale. This told a lot about love.
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Thank you, Stu. I’m glad that came across.
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I felt so moved by your post, Dale. These moments are very special.
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Thank you, Francine. They are. And there are so many so I am lucky.
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This is a beautiful tribute, Dale. Sending you hugs.
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Merci Magarisa!
Lots of great memories to go back to.
Bises!
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Gros bisous 💜
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😍😘
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Lovely memory Dale and thankfully you have them, although it would be better if he were still with you to make more.
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Thank you, Michael. Definitely grateful for having so many good ones. And I miss him most during this bloody month (of course, I miss him almost always)
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Such memories are priceless. A lovely and touching post.
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They are, Subroto. And I thank you.
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What a memory… I almost never share anything I’ve written with my wife… she said she would feel obliged to like it so she don’t want to read. But I know about using the chat even when you are in the same house… 🙂
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Ha ha! Well… Mick is not here to defend himself so I use him at will. Though honestly, I think he would have gotten a kick out of it.
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Oh Dale
Beautiful piece
I’m so sorry. Sounds like he will always be your muse. He probably loves that. ❤
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Thank you, Laurie
So glad you think so. He will probably be for a long time.
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Beautiful memory, Dale and glad you shared with us. I too cannot work with loud music playing. I like it quite so that I can hear my thoughts.
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Thank you, Anshu. I do love sharing the good memories.
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Thank you Dale for sharing precious memories, ,
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Thank you for reading, Michael.
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What a fab story. Loved the zing in it, Dale
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Thanks Neel
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Sweet memories. Thanks for writing and sharing it. It made me smile. There is comfort in memories like that one.
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True. Glad Aidan reminded me.
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