I just finished watching a biopic of Jane Fonda and was inspired by something she said. Suddenly I knew what I wanted to write for this challenge.
A word prompt to get your creativity flowing this weekend. How you use the prompt is up to you. Write a piece of flash fiction, a poem, a chapter for your novel…anything you like. Or take the challenge below – there are no prizes – it’s not a competition but rather a fun writing exercise. If you want to share what you come up with, please leave a link to it in the comments. Thank you, Sammi, for hosting this party.
Word Prompt
Silhouette
Challenge
It took me years
To reside comfortably within my own skin
No longer a silhouette of myself
I can feel my anger
I can feel my judgments
I can feel my kindness
Everything that makes up who I am
Including the fact that I just may be
Stonger and braver than the man I am with
Which is difficult for him
But necessary for me
Very good. Assuming there is truth to your piece — Rather than feeling comfortable in my skin, my issue is that far too many roles in my life require me to wear a costume, a mask, to cover up the real me. I know I’m comfortable in my own skin, I just don’t get too reveal it all that often.
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I absolutely agree with you, Mark. I have a plethora of masks I’ve used, and still do, out of necessity.
I do believe, however, that when it comes down to it, we need to feel authentic with ourselves and not put ourselves aside just to “fit” for/with another.
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The biggest costume I wear is for work. It’s possible I’ll be able to retire from my 8-5 day job and have a lot more flexibility … meaning I’ll get to have my real skin as the outer layer a lot more frequently. You’ll probably understand just how much I’m looking forward to that. 😉
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I so hear you. I think that’s where we all wear one (or most of us anyway).
I can well imagine that the closer we come to retirement, the more we look forward to it – unless we are the type (and I sure as hell am not) who lives to work…😏
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Live to work …. UGGGGHHHHH!!!!!1
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MAJOR UGGGGHHHH! I always said I’d never be über rich because I work to live, not live to work…
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I’m 54, work for the gov’t, can retire at 55 as long as the numbers pencil out. Others keep working much longer even when they don’t need to. I will never, ever understand that.
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We’re the same age. I, unfortunately, never stuck to a job long enough to build a decent pension. I definitely will retire officially as early as I can. I am not worried, at all, about keeping busy after! It’s those who have no outside interests who stay in it… or who die immediately after they do retire.
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Very true. Good luck to you in achieving that place where you wake up every day and get to do whatever the hell you want.
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I do that six months of the year! I work in a golf club the other six 😉
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That’s actually what I mean by retired at 55. No longer working the M-F, 8-5 gig but doing something for a smaller chunk of time that hopefully is more enjoyable, that allows me to wear my skin.
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Absolutely. And I hope you do!
Once I sell my big-ass house and find myself a much smaller one, my life will totally change… Not that I am not living life now, you understand. This is not one of those: “I’ll be happy when I ______” situations. 🙂
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Yes. I want to downsize too and do a few other things. Unfortunately, my family isn’t cooperating. One adult son still lives at home. The other is taking the slow approach to college as he figures out what he wants to do with his life. He has finally figured it out, I think, and has done well this year for the first time. If he continues to do that, I want to be able him out. Can’t do that if I completely retire. So, I’m unfortunately still in the “I’ll be happy when I …” situation. But it is definitely really close. Working on some ideas that will allow me to retire and earn enough supplemental income to meet the needs for a few more years. Your 6 months on, 6 months off life is one of the options I’m exploring.
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You sure you’re not talking about MY house? One adult son has returned to school full-time in the evenings (and works during the day) to get his electrician papers; the younger son is in college and is trying to figure out what he wants to do…
The downsizing is a necessity because, first off, I loathe housework and we moved here so my husband could work from home. Now that he is no longer with us (been 4 years now), I don’t need/want all this space.
I was considering looking for something else, but frankly, I’ll take the pain for 6 months so I can take the joys for 6!
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That’s too funny. My 24-year-old has finally given up on trying to make college work and says he is moving out this summer — but I don’t see him laying the necessary foundation to make that a success. I told him on Friday I fully expected him to have to move back 6 months after he moved out. Meanwhile, younger son is up in Chico, after being academically disqualified from continued attendance at Chico State, he started taking community college classes and last year figured out that he wants to back to Chico State for his bachelor’s in animal science and he FINALLY started taking his classes seriously. It’s going to be another three years before he gets it done.
As for downsizing — absolutely yes, the last thing I want to be when I retire is a slave to our house. We have a pool and a larger yard than we need and 2100 square feet and two stories and I want none of it. The wife, on the other hand …
When I get to that moment, I want to be out in the world, running, hiking, biking, exploring, painting, writing. The last thing I want is to waste my time taking care of a house that is bigger than needed. Humbug!
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This is too funny. Iain (the 21 yr-old) was going to move out but got accepted (to his surprise) to electricity school so, his moving out will be delayed by 2 years (length of the program) and he’s very much like his mother so no way in hell will he move back. Aidan (the 19 yr-old) doesn’t seem to be in any rush whatsoever to do anything. However, he seems to be serious in this program, so fingers crossed. Of course, all goes well, then it’s on to University so… shit.
Same. 4 bedrooms, 3 full baths plus a friggen powder room? We are 3 – THREE – in the house. The pool is just a pain in my ass that only I use sporadically. The hubby was a necessary piece to keeping this joint running smoothly – a Mr. Fix-It.
I have started living, however. Sent myself, by myself, to Tuscany, my dream destination two years ago. If this bleeping house had sold, I would have been in Burgundy for my 55th birthday. But, had to cancel that one.
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The pool … nobody uses it and I’m done with it. But gotta keep it up, right?
We have three people living here now. Two refrigerators, one chest freezer — both are filled to the limit with food and drink. We have oodles of cabinet space filled with more food.
It just drives me freakin’ crazy.
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Exactly!
I’m telling you… your story is the same as mine! Mind you, I did/do part-time catering, so the two fridges and chest freezer are necessities – right?
Stuff. So. Much. Stuff!!
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Let me guess … if you don’t already do so, you want to live in a walkable community.
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Hah! In a Tuscan village… while dreaming, might as well make it the best, right?
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An encapsulation of a much-neglected truth. In 65 words. Ace. 🙂
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Thank you, Crispina. Ace, eh? 😊
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Indeed. You definitely nailed it, while I looked at the prompt … and backed out.
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Thank you so very much.
Oh? What stopped you?
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Time. Sammi understands that. While I haven’t deadlines imposed by others, I do have my own impatience to be done, dusted, PUBLISHED, and moved on to the next project. I tell, this e-book thing is such a good discipline.
I guess it’s it’s the same as most folks get from the NaNo thing. I’ve announced my intention. announced it public on my blog. Now … gotta be done.
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Good for you on being so disciplined. Might be why my book is far from close.
You go, girl!
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It’s sometimes hard. But I’ve no compelling distractions, so I’ve no excuses.
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Kudos to you.
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Cheers
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Dear Dale,
Once more you’ve hit this one out of the ballpark. You inspire the rest of us, you know. If you didn’t know, it’s time you did and I’m just the woman to tell you so. 😉 Well told in the allotted 65 words. Going to post mine in a moment. (Yeah, Sammi’s roped me in…through you.) ❤
Shalom and hugs, my stalwart friend,
Rochelle
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Dear Rochelle,
Thank you kind lady 😉. How wonderful to be found inspirational. I’m just winging it like most of us.
Ooohh! Cool. So glad you play along! 💖
Shalom and Lotsa love my creative and encouraging friend
Dale
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Excellent Dale I agree with you and Jane❤️💜
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Thank you, Willow. She is wise..🧡💖
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She is indeed 💜
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Difficult for him, but necessary for me. That is a wonderful closing line, and I suspect, one with much truth. Change is good. For everybody.
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Thank you, Trent. I think change is inevitable and one must go with it.
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Q,
It takes many years to get to a point where you are comfortable in your own skin. But once there, you don’t leap out. You stick the landing and trust your instincts. Trust the voice, it will lead you.
Brava! And to think you borrowed inspiration from the great Lady Jane! Woman of so many hats- Oscar, Emmy, Tony nods- whose personal life has been filled with complicated personalities. And yet, she broke it down to its simplest point. And flourished as a result.
This is a lovely and powerful strum of words.
B
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B,
It does take many years and can be a helluva journey. Some never really achieve it or dare to even try.
Thank you. I was indeed inspired by her. Many of the things she said resonated with me. I like to think I’m getting there.
You are a lovely and generous gent.
Q
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And those of us who do dare try, we are steeled for the criticism that comes with being comfortable in your own skin.
You’re getting there indeed. And every day is that winding road to clarity.
Thank you kindly!
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That is a truth right there. Nothing begets criticism more than being yourself.
You are lovely to say so.
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The fork in the road, which becomes the turning point, comes when you stop criticizing yourself. When you go “THAT’S why . . .” . . then you’re on the right road.
To peace of mind, and to taking the right fork, or the left fork . . .
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Methinks you are so very right…
To piece of mind and taking the right fork with the good spoon and the proper knife – coz those are necessary on your journey, too…
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I knows a thing or two cause I’ve seen a thing or two. (Farmers Insurance stole MY line, LOL).
No sporks though. Those fuckers never work.
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Don’t I knows it that you has seen more than a think or two 😉
Oh hells no. They are an abomination.
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Sporks are supposed to give us the best of both worlds. A fork for impaling our beast and a spoon for the day old stew with the leftovers. And yet . . it does NEITHER!
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However, ever notice how those beasties are PLASTIC? What in the name of hell can you even stab with that pathetic thing…. No. Just gimme both utensils – in metal, thank you very much – and we good.
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Right! If any utensil should be made of titanium, it’s those puppies.
But of course, they will never be done away with, as they contribute to the strife and consternation that keeps our elected officials in office. It’s the matrix, I swear to God . . .
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For shizzle.
And… for shizzle!!
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The sizzle of it all! 🙂
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Good words of advice, Dale. Just from the little bit I know of you, I think you’ve discovered you’re way stronger than you thought you were.
I heard Jane Fonda interviewed on NPR when that show came out, but I haven’t seen it. I’ll have to wait for it to get to Netflix.
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Aww, thank you, Merril.
A friend of mine said she saw it was on Netflix. I dunno as I caught it on HBO, on TV. I know that HBO and Netflix are not buddies and I think she saw it was listed (as they will be when they are NOT part of the programming…)
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I just checked. Yes, it’s on HBO, but not on Netflix. We don’t have HBO. 🙂
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Dang. I got HBO for only 2 months so I can watch “True Detective” – then I’m getting rid of it again!!
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That new season of True Detective looks good. It’s really being advertised and reviewed.
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Which is the only reason I’m giving it a chance. Because season 2? I quit that puppy 2 episodes in… and if it’s as “mumbly” as season 1, I’ll rethink it… 😉
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I haven’t seen any of it, but if I had HBO, I’d definitely check out Season 3.
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😀 Great cast! (I’ll keep ya posted 😉 )
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This is excellent. As was said in the previous comments, it takes a lot of us a literal lifetime to get comfortable in our own skins. We have the tendency to adapt to what’s around us. Like I’m still different at work than I am outside of it. Over the years, I’ve grown more not to care what others thought, and it’s no coincidence I’ve accomplished more as a result. But still takes awhile for many to find their place and space in this world.
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Thank you, David.
It does take a lifetime – or a huge chunk of it – to not only be comfortable in our skin, but to accept that it won’t float everyone’s boat and to be okay with that. We have to adapt to our surroundings to a certain extent but yes, as we get older, we care less about what others think… benefits of aging, eh?
Thank you so much for your chime!
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I agree it’s the benefit of aging. The older you get, the more you concern yourself with what you want to get done before you leave this earth. That’s pretty much what it’s done for me.
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Yep… as well as no longer wanting to waste our time on things that don’t inspire us or make us vibrate…
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After our convo over at the concert post, I only have screeching on my mind. And 65 words?? Are you freakin’ kidding me? Nice job! Kudos.
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Hahahaha! Sorry. No screeching here… At lease not for this one 😉
65. I think I like these challenges for their brevity. I prefer them even shorter!
And thank you, Ms Monika!
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I love the strength and self-assurance – and wisdom – in this poem Dale.
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Thank you so much, Andrea. I so connected with what Jane was saying and had to share it for myself…
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This was perfection. And I do believe the whole truth.
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Perfection! Wow… that is more than kind of you, Violet. I thank you. And yes, only the whole truth.
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Excellent one. Dale. I always enjoy people who want to be stronger and braver than me. Let’s me relax in the back.
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Haha! I thank you, John.
I’m sure you’ve had your moments. And nothing wrong with relaxing in the back…
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Absolutely not! I’ve posted on Monday or Tuesday 😉
Wonderful story, Oneta.
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There is truth that shines within your wisdom of words and poetic honesty. 🙂
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Why thank you, Charlie… mine is a much simpler form than yours 😉
I appreciate your comment very much. 🙂
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You’re welcome, Dale. Bless you my friend. 🙂
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One of the best gifts of crone-age is to live comfortably in my own skin. I love the strength of your words.
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Thank you, my favourite Crone. As I get older, I get more and more comfortable myself. So glad you found strength in my words.
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We’re channeling the same vibe! I wrote a post on owning your body as a woman that feels like your post. I love that you were inspired by something she said–and created this:). Beautiful.
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Woo hoo! We are in synch!
Her words just stopped me. I had to rewind and write down hers, then adapt them to mine.
Thank you, kind Kristine
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She has given some great interviews. Look up Oprah’s Next Chapter interview with Jane. I bet she inspires you again.
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She has. And I’ve seen… Didn’t she also do Oprah’s Master Class? Love those…
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So good and so true, Dale. Took me a good 35 years to feel comfortable in my own skin, that I have a resilience at my heart that will be hard to snap. Such a great sentiment and so well put
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Thank you, Lynn. Took me years too. Sometimes I still slip. I’m a work in progress!
So glad you liked.
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Aren’t we all works in progress? I think I will be, right to the end! Always a pleasure, Dale
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I could not agree more! And I think we must!
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Fabulous! I like this a lot. I really adore your writing.
Well, I’m comfortable, but not 100%.
Perhaps I should just get a new picnic basket?
Oops, sorry, I had a momentary lapse and began channelling Yogi Bear.
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Ah wow… Thank you, Resa.
Same here. I keep working on it though.
Buahaha! Funny you! xoxo
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xoxo
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Excellent! And so beautifully written too! Those closing lines…perfect 🙂
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Thank you very much, Sammi!
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i really enjoyed your words, felt connected with you immediately, thank you.
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Thank you! Much appreciated.
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