There are those days when you want to throw your hands in the air and just say Fuck it! Yesterday was one of those days.
As I prepared for my “date”, the skies were beautiful and so full of promise…
Why I don’t listen to my gut, is beyond me. Must be that little naive bit of me that I refuse to let die. Or maybe it’s the optimist that once and again shoves the realist out of the way because maybe, just maybe, you’ve got to give it a shot.
Well phooey! Gave it a shot. Wasted my time. Most of that time was spent idling in the insufferable traffic jam that is the island of Montreal. For what? To clean off my car in this sub-zero, digit-stealing, toe-numbing, nostril-freezing friggen blast of arctic cold we are going through this past week. To thaw out in said car, heaters blasting, nose now running, fingers and toes now tingling, to sit through one log-jam to get onto the highway, to pass those who cannot seem to follow the speed-limit, to cross the bridge, then slow to a crawl to get to another highway, only to be redirected, to finally realise this has all been for naught. To decide then and there to say Fuck It and to get off at my first chance. (All this “Fuck It Attitude I am blaming on Grace and Frankie – gotta love this trailer, totally uncensored, by the way.)
To decide that this will not be a total waste of my time as I turn around and make my way to the Montreal Forum Cineplex and park inside where is is snow-free and warm. (Because really? I am NOT gonna putz around looking for parking on the still-uncleaned streets from our latest dump of snow, only to actually find one and then have a snowplow (miraculously) completely box me in so that I now need to shovel to get out, after I have frozen my ass walking from the cinema).

Notre-Dame Street (Shhh… there was no one behind me and I stopped and snapped but still managed to have a blurry pic)
Driving up St. Marc Street, on my way to the Forum, I am struck by a beautiful mural (this is your fault, Resa McConaghy!) and wish I can pull over so I can take a proper picture but this street looks pretty much like the one above, plus I have someone right behind me. Thankfully, I am stopped at a light and can open my window, brave the cold, and snap a quick pic. I will definitely have to return to take some better shots without the bloody parking signs and do Resa proud 😉 I have to admit I’m surprised at just how nice and bright this did turn out.
I walk up to the main level of the forum, re-bundle up so I can then cross the street outside because, why is this the one non-underground connecting section of Montreal? Fucks sake. Or is there one and now I am even more of an eejit for not knowing it? Goddamn! It’s cold. The wind rendering my face instantly numb, I wait inside for the light to turn green, then hurriedly make my way to Roasters, a little BBQ Grill & Bar, because at this point, I’m gonna have me a Rickard’s Red with something decent to eat. I have over half an hour before my movie starts and I am NOT having an A&W or McDonald’s burger after having wasted an hour and half to get here.
I am more than pleasantly surprised by my chicken wrap.
With almost ten minutes to spare, I re-bundled up just to cross the street. I swear, this is not a day to leave your coat open and dash… Upon Merril‘s recommendation, I purchased my ticket for “Cold War”, a beautiful 89-minute black and white escape into another world.
The movie is sent during the cold war in Poland, Wiktor and Irena are driving through Poland, recording various people singing old folk tunes. They then want to create a choral ensemble to tour. During these auditions, Zula appears. Wiktor sees something in her and decides to accept her into the troupe. They fall in love and so begins a most difficult relationship. Can people be too in love with each other? They go from bliss to separation, back together and apart. Between all of these comings and goings is beautiful music and gorgeous cinematography.
I probably shouldn’t share this particular video with you but I really, REALLY wanted to share the whole choir singing “Two Hearts” because it is heart-breakingly beautiful.
Feeling warm and happy that my evening turned around, I got into my car and made my way home. Of course the tunnel leading to the Jacques-Cartier bridge was closed. Sigh. Slowly forced to take an exit which is, of course, very slow going, and once I get up the hill, the bridge is not lit up in green or purple or whatever, as per usual. I fear it might be closed I might be taking the long drive along Notre-Dame to the tunnel to get home but no. Miracles of miracles, it was just a section of the tunnel being worked on which caused the redirect. Through the thick snow I drive, across the bridge, onto properly moving traffic on the highway and back home before 10 pm.
I wash off my face, change into jammies, pour myself a glass of wine and I catch up on my blog readings.
That’s definitely what I call making the best of it.
I confess…I won’t even bother going out in weather like that, especially at night when it’s 10 times colder. So long as there’s dog food in the house, it can wait. And if I’ve timed by autoship orders right with Chewy’s, said dog food arrives on time without me having to go outside shoppng in it. I’m a total wimp when it’s cold and windy and that’s what it has been the past few days. Cold, I can (sort of) deal with (not so much traffic jams in it), but wind…that’s when I draw the line and say 🤬it. Stay warm. Tomorrow will be a better day. 🤞🏼
LikeLiked by 3 people
I have to tell you, I don’t know what possessed me to go out there. Though I’m not really that much of a wimp. No., I lie. I have become a major wimp. Just now a friend asked me to go over for a glass of wine and a movie. The thought of stepping outside leaves me cold. Pun totally intended.
Yes. tomorrow.
LikeLiked by 2 people
🤣 You crack me up!
LikeLiked by 2 people
See what he’s missing?
Loser!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well now. Various things seemed to put you into a snit. So the beautiful opening pic was a deception. Then again, frigid temps can do that. Hey – I recognized the Montreal Maroons uniforms (only Googled to confirm my thoughts). Thanks for the movie tip.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well. One would be in quite the snit if a series of unfortunate events happened one after the other.
Yes. Glorious image, isn’t it? And kudos to you. I’m looking forward to Resa’s reaction.
Most welcome. If you are not opposed to reading the movies you are seeing. This one was truly beautiful.
LikeLiked by 2 people
OH … and I forgot to hassle Resa for her involvement in your snit!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Now, now… do you not think snit is a tad harsh?
LikeLiked by 2 people
Oh no, especially if we blame it on Resa.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Now, now… she does not deserve that. Finding the mural was the first thing that took me out of my snit.
LikeLiked by 2 people
OK …. no blame to Resa. How about St. Marc’s St?
LikeLiked by 2 people
For taking me out of the snit? Hey… come to think of it… if that’s what we’re blaming Resa for, then, that’s ok!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Glad you made the best of what looked like a bad situation. I have to say those fries looked killer.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I do tend to try to do that. That whole lemon/lemonade thing…
I have to tell you, John. It took a mighty effort NOT to scarf them all down… mind you, the ones that I did leave behind seemed to have fallen in with the fresh ones and were hard as rocks. So maybe, after all, that was a good thing! 😉
LikeLiked by 2 people
I woud have eaten them all. Hard, soft, fresh, stale. All gone. 🐘
LikeLiked by 2 people
I must confess… there was one in particular that practically broke a tooth. I took it as a sign to stop stuffing my face… 😉
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ha haha
LikeLiked by 2 people
😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds a nightmare, the chicken looked really good, what’s a Rickards Red? If snow like that existed in Worcestershire where I live, everything would come to an immediate halt and people would be panic buying car ice scrapers which would then all disappear and turn up when spring comes.
LikeLiked by 2 people
There were some good moments. The chicken being one of them. Rickard’s Red is an amber ale. If snow existed like that in Worcestershire, you would be used to it and have learnt how to adapt. Since it doesn’t, you’d be fucked should it happen in one fell swoop!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Agreed, I do like an Amber ale though, heres hoping for snow like you have, After I get me next delivery of logs mind!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Amber ales are the bomb! Well, if you do have such a dumping of snow, have a fridge and cupboard full! And yes, logs would be good.
LikeLiked by 2 people
After all that, I’m so glad you loved the movie. I’m STILL hearing the song, and that’s without playing the clip–again! 🙂 That mural is great, and you did get a good photo for a quick out the window picture.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I think I enjoyed it all the more because of it!
I’m still hearing it too. Oh wait, coz I just listened to it!
Thank you. Just wished there was no sign… it would have been an almost perfect shot!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Q,
Relationships are overrated. But if you are so inspired, no chance is a loss, no night out a waste of time. There was a time when I thought my failed marriage had been all for naught, and we still could have had the kids in sin, LOL. But it wasn’t for naught. It taught me who I am. So nothing is ever a loss or a wasted opportunity. Everything is worth the time you put into it.
And to get fries, drinks and a good movie out of the frigid night is always bonus round! I’m big into the meals in a pint glass right now, as I’ve been having ’em in place of certain meals recently. Froth and heft equals my happy place.
To beating back the cold and moving forward. Always moving forward.
Love and peace,
B
LikeLiked by 4 people
B,
Who said anything about a relationship? Was supposed to be dinner and a we’ll see… And I lived in sin with Mick for seven years, had three children and then got married because we… hmmm.. why did we?
Yep. To me from me with all my love. I never disappoint myself 😉 And hey… pints filled with hops are cereal, so, they can count as a meal, no?
Always moving forward. It’s the only direction I ever go in.
Love and peace and good movies and better beer and good friends,
Q
LikeLiked by 2 people
You did. When you were talking about the movie silly.
And see? It’s all in what we want, and everyone’s wants are different. And we’re in an age where they can all fit. Hopefully.
It’s not about disappointments, Q. Unless you believe it is. So what if this wasn’t it? The next one might be, or the one after that. As I said, you move forward and you’ll find what you’re looking for. Fo shiz.
Peace of mind. It’s where it’s at. 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
My bad. I thought you were referring to me!
I like to think so. As we get older, we know what we want and don’t and what we are willing to put up with (not much).
Not so much disappointment as maybe frustration at lack of integrity. However, and that said. I am good. And still don’t know what I’m looking for so. Fo shiz.
Yep, Peace of mind.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Being of a certain age is like being in one of those air traffic control towers. You can see from all directions. You can see landings and takeoffs. And unlike being in one of those towers, you drink for enjoyment, LOL.
You’ll find it, you really will. And as far as integrity goes, I could write a book on all these peeps who preach about happy marriages and how important stable relationships are. I dated them!
Peace and love of mind.
LikeLiked by 3 people
Amen, Brother! Amen!
You are funny. And sweet. And funny. Oh, sorry, I already said that. As for integrity, I just don’t understand how it has become such a rare commodity. Well. I do, but I don’t. 😀
Peace and love. The kind that makes you happy
LikeLiked by 3 people
It’s because life has changed. Lots. Things are more transient than ever. And it’s easy to lie, easier than ever. In that vein, the toothpaste ain’t going back in the tube.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Life has. And not all of it for the better, that is fo’ sho’. Perfect analogy. It ain’t never going back.
So, with that thought, all we can do as imperfect humans, is our best to not fully fall into those cracks and hold ourselves to higher standards. Those who don’t even try, don’t make it to the inner circle. Coz. Fuck it. I ain’t got time nor inclination for it.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I’m of the opinion that as long as their lies ain’t put me or mine in a compromising situation, then it’s on them. Because as a writer, we are adventurous souls who don’t mind examining the inner workings of why people do what they do.
I’ve found that if you treat everything as a journey and an adventure, you good.
LikeLiked by 2 people
That is definitely an important point. And hope that there is no trickle-down effect.
You are especially good at that 🙂
Yep. Life is an adventure to be taken, enjoyed, learned from and teach!
LikeLiked by 2 people
It’s funny, but peeps are quick to judge a person based on the way they live their life. As if we’re templates, destined for the same points of light. It’s important not to play ping pong with these peeps. Because most of these peeps wouldn’t want it known the way they conduct THEIR business.
LikeLiked by 2 people
So very true. Not married, you should be; no kids, you should have; one kid, you should have more; three kids, what the hell are you doing; working part time, why not full-time; working as a waitress, why are you wasting your life, you’re better than that; going back to school, what for? And so on…
None of anyone’s biz but your own but folks feel the need to let you know that you don’t know what you want, even if you do. And you are so very right, again about peeps not wanting it known how they conduct their shit.
And don’t let all this “you’re right” stuff make you too big for your britches…
LikeLiked by 2 people
It’s how it be. Peeps is always better at conducting someone else’s business than they are at tending to their own.
Nah, I ain’t got the big britches syndrome. As the old saying goes, I may not be right, but I am always certain, LOL.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Know why? Coz it is way easier to point fingers than deal with one’s own shit.
I wasn’t overly worried… just funnin’ wit ya.
LikeLiked by 2 people
True. Shit!
Wait . . you used ya and not u? Will wonders never cease.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ah c’mon!
Who switched MWAH! to MUAH!? YOU, not moi… just sayin’…
LikeLiked by 2 people
Because unlike our President, I am not playing trade wars. I am plenty fine with injecting the U into words so long as you admit Michael J. Fox is from Ohio.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Darlin’. We’ve been here before.
You can have Pamela Anderson and Justin Bieber.
You cannot have Michael J. Fox.
Ever.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Who you kidding?
Pamela Anderson and Justin Bieber aren’t worth a dozen stale donuts from Tim Hortons.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Which is why you can have ’em.
I might throw in Jim Carey, begrudgingly…
LikeLiked by 2 people
Jim Carey 2019 or Jim Carey of the Bruce Almighty Days?
LikeLiked by 1 person
See? You are just too bloody smart for your own good! Of course 2019. He defected anyway. Official US citizen now…
LikeLiked by 2 people
We’re sending him to Mexico.
LikeLiked by 2 people
That’s cool. I’m good with that
LikeLiked by 2 people
What an effort. I think I would have chosen to stay at home!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well hell, Colline… I was already out there. Might as well make the best of it!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Guess you could not predict the effort it would take to have an enjoyable night out.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Nope. No way I could have predicted that!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Dear Dale,
You do inspire me. However, given the same set of circumstances, I would’ve skipped going out in the cold and gone straight for the jammies and the wine. Of course I have 4 more seasons of Downton Abbey to catch up on. 😉 Sending warm thoughts and just want to thank Canada for the arctic weather making its way to Missouri. Yep…jammies and wine time.
Shalom and warm hugs,
Rochelle
LikeLiked by 4 people
Dearest Rochelle,
Inspiration, Inshmiration. It was pure folly, that’s what it was! Guess where I am right now? Yes ma’am. In my jammies with a glass of wine on hand. Done the Downton Abbey thing and already done the Grace and Frankie thing so looking for the next binge-worthy thing.
Oh? And it’s Canada’s fault for the cold now? G’head… We are used to the abuse…
Shalom and lotsa warm love,
Dale
LikeLiked by 1 person
A blessing in disguise, I think that’s what it was.
Trust your gut. I know exactly how you feel. I myself went out in -3000000 C to what? I didn’t want to go in the first place either……. but the ” you never know kicked in ” and I had to top that off!! I had to shower too!!!!
Stop chasing something, it will happen, when the time is right, that day it wasn’t. A movie was right, and the chicken wrap.
Like always, I love the way you write. I felt your pain, the cold, the emotions. You put me right there next to you, again.
BTW, you still owe me sushi……..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Absolutely. That’s how I take all things, really. One of the benefits of writing is you can take your experience and add to it. In reality, I barely even cussed once whilst driving. I had half-decided this is what I was going to do on my way out of the door. I feel you on the having to shower (and shave and whatnot).
Oh, I am so not chasing. And whatever will be, will be. That chicken wrap was the bomb! The movie a feast for the eyes.
Thank you, Tony. I am lad you do.
How’s that? I didn’t know I did! Dang. I don’t like owing a debt!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Whoa! Well, if the you-know-what hits the fan, I wanna hang out with ya. Because I think at the very least we’d make a little lemonade. 🙂
Thank you for the beautiful mural and for the absolutely beautiful and haunting movie clip. Now I gotta see it (preferably not in arctic temps …) XOXO
LikeLiked by 2 people
They ain’t no poop hitting no fan… but if there were, we’ll have us some fun, k?
You are most welcome. So very glad you enjoyed it and yes, do go and see it. It is utterly beautiful, as you can see by the clip, which almost tells the whole movie but still…
XOXO!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I do like knowing the whole movie before seeing it. I guess that’s why I like re-watching my favorite ones (and re-reading my favorite books). It’s like visiting with an old friend. 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
Well then, this video does just that. Of course there is way more to the movie… it truly was beautifully done.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes, it looks like a movie that’d pull me in and touch my soul. I did have to chuckle at the opening scene of the clip, with the FREEEEEEZER weather and the van … and I thought to myself, “this is what Dale went in from the cold to see…” 😉 xoxo
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ha ha ha! Not quite the frozen Polish tundra, but it was dang cold. It will. Do let me know when you go and see it what you think of it!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Will do!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ha! I had exactly one of those days today. And love that Chicken wrap (and the fries)!
LikeLiked by 2 people
There are days that make you want to go back to bed and start over… unless you discover a delicious wrap with fabulous fries and a beautiful movie…
LikeLiked by 2 people
So true!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Did you happen to watch the video? That song is so haunting and beautiful…
LikeLiked by 2 people
It really is Dale
LikeLiked by 2 people
I seriously do not understand how people can live in places where it is so cold.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Neither can I. Oh wait. I do. Born here so…guess I’m used to it…plus all my family is here.
We’re made of strong stuff 😉
LikeLiked by 2 people
PS: Forgot to mention that we enjoy Grace and Frankie.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I loved it. Gobbled it up in two sittings!
LikeLiked by 2 people
What a day! And what a review of a movie; you tempt me to see it. And now I’m feeling exhausted, just in following you and your car through the streets of Montreal!
LikeLiked by 2 people
That was just the evening! 😉 And the drive was interminable yet, once I had decided to go to the movies, traffic moved for me.😎
I kept that review purposefully short since the video takes care of most of it. I thoroughly enjoyed it, I must say.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I couldn’t help a little smile. The movie was set in Poland. And in telling the clip of my father’s story, it began in Prussia, in an area which is now in Poland,. And I loved that clip you included.
LikeLiked by 2 people
😀
Then it is all good!
So glad you did. I have watched it about six times. Sor far.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Gosh. That’s keen. 🙂
LikeLiked by 2 people
😀
LikeLiked by 2 people
When I saw the opening scene in the clip, I thought: Are Canadians truly masochists? Freezing your tits off and then watching a movie about the cold…? 😆 Good on you for making the best of it. Sometimes we are truly our own best dates. And those fries looked amazing!
LikeLiked by 3 people
Buahahaha!!! We can be nuts! Was worse on Saturdayn, when I actually walked around Old Montreal with that “date”.
You are right. We are our best date sometimes and those fries were delish!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Mel, as I said to Dale; I can only underline your every word! And you know what? (AND of course I have no idea about your situation, but….) I have realised at one point in my life that I’m pretty good company to myself (or a great date if you wish) and that I like it! 🙂
LikeLiked by 3 people
Hah! I can tell you one thing… I don’t argue with myself over what to see at the movies 😉
LikeLiked by 2 people
I just thought to write the same thing as Mel did…. 😉
You ARE a bit of a nutcase, aren’t you? NO rendez-vous, with a man, a woman or god could have tempted me out in that kind of weather!
But, apart from the swearing, your writing and telling a story, is just second to none – you’re a gal on a mission and I bless the day I found you. You always cheer me up, make me smile, give me some sunshine (ha ha, this in Canadian winter!) and I love you for that…. And for sharing your life with us.
I have now seen so many interviews with ‘Grace and Frankie’ that I just NOW ordered the first 6 DVDs to indulge myself in the coming times…. As if I’d have the time to watch DVD’s. I’m probably a bit too naive myself, or too hopeful, or too …. let’s stop here!
I did love the clip, and so did I your ‘dinner’ – the fries look amazing and the wrap too. I also know now what a Rickard’s Red is… I would have preferred ‘just’ a glass of Red myself but with the hazardous driving it might have been the wiser choice. The mural is truly amazing, what a colour-popper…
Have a great day, love – you’re beautiful, inside and out!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I am at that. We Canucks are known for our crazy.
And I apologise, I don’t usually cuss so much – if you watched the G&F clip, you can understand I channelled them. Glad you enjoyed my rant, I mean story, despite it. Each episode is only half an hour so, you’ll find the time. And.then you’ll be hooked.
That dinner turned out great, the beer money and the movie a delight for the senses. The mural was icing on the cake…
Thank you, lovely lady, you’re a sweet one. Have a fabulous day yourself!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Sounds like a great evening to me even with its ups and downs. The music from the film is amazing! It puts me in mind of Karl Jenkins Adiemus
And
LikeLiked by 2 people
You know what, Willow? It was.
And thank you. Lovely pieces!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
😀 we make the most of what we have. I am so glad you like the music 💜💜💜
LikeLiked by 2 people
😊 Absolutely, my friend. 🧡🧡🧡
LikeLiked by 1 person
💜💜
LikeLiked by 2 people
I ‘m exhausted just reading this. Hope you had a great evening..:)
LikeLiked by 2 people
Ha ha ha! Sorry I put so many words for what was just a long, slow drive towards a different destination than originally planned… the evening was great as the food was delicious and the movie wonderful!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I think you definitely made the best of the irritations that threatened to ruin your night!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you, Andrea. I always try to. I’m not good at staying stuck in the negative (only long enough to create a post 😉 )
LikeLiked by 2 people
Just listening to the singing while commenting! It goes with the snow, somehow… beautiful, but dirge like.
Oh, so it’s my fault, hey? Well, the street art is the most colourful image in the post! Love it!
So, I’ve been over on my Art Gowns blog, working on my funny art.
Will be back on GLaM in a day or two, and okay the pingback!
Thank you, Dale, it’s wonderful to be thought of!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I just listened to it for the umpteenth time. I never realised it, but I guess so.
And yes! I am so glad you saw this post. It most definitely IS your fault. 🙂
Oooohhh – I believe I saw I have a message in my in-box.
😀 I’m at the point that I want to stop every time I see some! But can’t always..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Like you say; blogging is all about the exchange, don’t be shy!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes!! You like that one?
LikeLiked by 2 people
I like it!!!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
WOW…I would have been in tears..lol
You’re my hero!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Bah! Why waste energy on tears? Kept those for the movie – it, at least merited them…
LikeLiked by 1 person
👌😊
LikeLiked by 2 people