Good Thursday to all, or Boxing Day. to Canadians and Brits. Though we got our prompt a day early thanks to Rochelle‘s generosity, I could not squeeze in a story. And then I was glad I waited because this gave me the time to dedicate this post to my blogging friend David Kanigan, who sadly lost his brother, Lorne, in the first minutes of Christmas Day.
A Monument for Christmas
It was time to stand tall and strong. He had to try to keep his anger in check as he knew it would serve no purpose now. To rail against the system or whatever powers that be, that he wasn’t quite sure he believed in, would serve no purpose now.
He had to focus on the good that was before, and the end of all the suffering that had gone on for too long. It was a small comfort.
He wanted more time. And he didn’t want Christmas to be a monument to the day his brother’s light was snuffed.
Powerful, Dale. And oh so true for oh, too many. Hugs
Na’ama
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Thank you, Na’ama. It is, indeed.
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XOXO
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XOXO
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Dear Dale,
My heart goes out to David. What a way to begin the holiday. 😦 Beautifully and sensitively written, my friend.
Shalom and lotsa comforting hugs,
Rochelle
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Dear Rochelle,
As does mine. Thank you, I so wanted it to be so.
Shalom and lotsa virtual love,
Dale
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Sad one Dale.
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It is.
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Thank you Dale.
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You are most welcome and it feels like so little but I wanted to do something for you, my friend.
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It’s much more than you think. Thank you.
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Then I am glad I did.
I’m always around, you know…
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Peace and strength to you, David.
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Thank you.
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A wonderful tribute to a friend. I’m glad you found time to slip a story in. Merry day after Christmas.
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Thank you, Alicia. Oh, I was going to write something but then this happened and I couldn’t NOT do something.
Merry Boxing Day 😉
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Those poppies do seem to bring up anger as well as sadness. Very good.
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Thank you, Eugenia. It’s hard to accept when a young man, not yet 50, is taken away..
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You did it again. What a great and loving match to Dave‘s bro Lorne. Well done and Shalom etc to you too. We all need consolation and love for many different reasons. Hugs, K
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Thank you, Kiki. I feel helpless to do anything else so I am glad you feel this was loving.
Hugs, D
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Of course it is, was, will be….. Love has many forms
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Thank you, Kiki. It does, indeed.
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Sigh!!! Sad to hear about your friend’s brother….. and on Christmas Day.
You made a lovely tribute here, with your ability to write to the heart.
Happy Holidays, dear Dale! ⚡️💥
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Thank you, Resa.
I’m so glad it did come across.
Happy Holidays to you and yours, Sorceress! 🧚🏻🌟
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Lots of magic tonight! Big jam session going down & I’ll be there!
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Woot!! Have a great time!
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You betcha!!!
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Poignant story, Dale, and my sympathy for your friend’s loss. My friend lost his aunt on 24th, my first husband died 15 yes ago on December 20th, and my son-in-law’s father is on his way out. Christmas seems fateful for some x
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Thank you, Lizy. M’y friend died and a friend’s mother both on Christmas day 7 and 10 years ago and my husband and my grandmother on the 21 5 and 10 years ago.
Christmas is indeed fatedul. xo
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it’s terrible to hear about your friend’s loss at this time of the year. my condolences.
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Thank you, Plaridel. It’s bad enough to lose a brother, but on Christmas Day….
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Sad, touching, and timely.
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Thank you, Frank
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Q,
I’m so saddened to learn of this. What a tragic event, and to happen on Christmas day makes it all seem that much more tragic. I realize there is no good day for such a thing, but this hurts, to contemplate.
You’ve got such a great heart. So beautiful and true. I hope you’ll forgive my brevity in this comment, but there is little more to say than that. I’m blessed to have you in my life.
Condolences and prayers to your friend.
B
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B,
Lorne has been suffering off and on since 2012 and upon reading the first line of David’s post (a worthy read) I just knew in the pit of my stomach. There is no good day, you are right.
Thank you for saying that. And there is nothing wrong with brevity. It goes both ways, B. I am blessed to have you, too.
Thank you, for David.
Q
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So very sad. But it’s always right there, for the people who suffer and for their families and friends who live with the possibility hanging over them.
Thank you from all of us.
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It is and yes, it is always there.
I’m just glad I was able to do a little something from afar.
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There is a grace in the understanding and in the keeping on. Blessings to all those peeps who do get it, and who stay at the sides of those who need their presence.
You did beautifully. As per.
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Yes. Simply, yes.
And I thank you.
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Thank you Q, and Dale, and especially thank you friend.
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My friend, B, Marco… I’ll just stop there.
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Condolences to your friend, you have truly honoured him with this well-written, moving short piece.
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Thank you, Crispina. It was the least I could do…
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Indeed, a sadness at any time of the year… but Christmas Day? I know from families who have suffered a loss at Christmas, that Christmas is never ever the same again.
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I lost a friend on Christmas (7 years ago) and my friend lost her mother (10). And let’s face it, four days before, is not fun either…
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I lived for 10 years with a fella whose wife had died between Christmas and New Year. Grim. Every year.
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It is hard to not have moments where you feel a little grim. I, for one, make sure I do not to stay stuck in said grimness.
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I did my best to help him… him and his children.
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Some people stay stuck, unfortunately. It serves no purpose but they just don’t want to understand that life moves forward…
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In this case the chap was riddled with guilt. In the end (and after I left him) he finally had counselling. It helped. He’s now happily remarried.
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That is horrible. Why would he be? And am very glad for him he went for counselling. Good for him on getting his life in order and living again… too bad for you, though…
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He didn’y accept that his wife was ill… until too late. Reason for that… he wa he was holding down three jobs, etc. he was never at home, he didn’t see. I did. I was a friend of the family.
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Awww. That is not being fair to himself. Even if I understand misplaced guilt.
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I think he’s over it know. I saw him some years back, he seemed much better.
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I’m sure he has – you say he has remarried so, for everyone’s sake, he must have moved forward.
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Yep.
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Oh, Dale what a moving piece for Dave. Beautiful and heartwarming…
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Thank you, Marina. It was just a small something…
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…very kind, thoughtful and sweet.
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Such a lovely gift to DK in a hopelessly sad time, Dale….
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Thank you, Lori. We do what we can from afar…
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Indeed…
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A lovely tribute, and I’m so sorry for your friend.
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Thank you, Merril. I felt the need to do a little something.
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Sad, but a lovely tribute.
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Thank you, Alistair.
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Sorry about your friend’s loss. Your words help fill the gap.
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Thank you, Ina. That is all I was trying to do.
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Happy Be-lated Boxing Day! We tried to tell Maryjane that Boxing Day meant that we were in charge of the house, but she just flicked her tail, stared daggers, and gave us the paw. hahah! Great Story!
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Thank you, Bear! LOL re Maryjane…
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Very moving Dale, especially in that context, I’m sorry for David’s loss.
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Thank you, Andrea. Much appreciated.
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What a moving tribute. Sorry for your friend’s loss.
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Thank you, Monika.
I just felt the need….
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To lose someone dear at Christmas is a terrible thing. It’s a strong person who can resolve not to let the loss colour future celebrations. Happy New Year, Dale.
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It is and now David makes the third person I know to have lost someone on Christmas Day. I agree, one must be strong.
Happy 2020 to you and yours, Sandra!
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No words just respect 💜💜💜
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Thank you, Willow. 🧡🧡🧡
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A pleasure Hun💜
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A beautiful piece for your friend. So sad for his loss!
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Hah! I had checked before leaving you my comment and did not find you in my SPAM but you JUST commented and dang if you did not end up there. What is up with that?
And, in response to your lovely comment, I thank you.
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You have to approve it, apparently or else it will happen every time. Sad, but sometimes when you comment too often, Askiment (whatever that is) sees your comments as spam and sends them to the folder.
You are welcome 🙂
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But that is weird because you had left a comment before, I think? I always approve first-timers and then they no longer need my approval 😉
😀
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It’s a glitch. That’s what I was trying to explain. There is a software called Askiment and, sometimes, when a person comments on too many blog posts in a row, their comments get checked as spam. 🙂
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No, I understood. I use Akismet too. I’ve just never heard of this particular glitch happening.
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I’ve seen it a few times but it’s not common. Maybe I am too wordy and should stick to likes more than comments 🙂
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Haha! Nah… Comments are so much nicer than mere likes..
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🙂 I agree but Askimet has a big issue with those who comment too much, too often 🙂
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I do understand. It looks like those annoying bots that I block occasionally.
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Yes… I have blocked a few of them, and then some, too 🙂
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🙃🙂
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🙂
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Oh I’m so so sorry Dale. You’ve written a beautiful piece here
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Thank you, Laurie. I just wanted to do a little something
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What a sad story, with so much emotional truth. Beautifully written, Dale
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Thank you so much, Penny. It was the least I could do so I am glad it came across.
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It’s always hard to lose someone. The holidays always highlight that loss, even if that’s not when it happened. Good job of capturing the emotion vs. logic and the anticipation of future pain and the shadow hanging over the holiday
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Yes, this is so true. Thank you. I know only too well…
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Beautiful
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Thank you!
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Your welcome Dale, thank you so much for writing me back… I’m really honored to have someone like you here
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What a sweet thing to say.
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Yeah..I hope everyone are doing pretty good over there..I mean family and friends
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Yep! All good!
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OK…I’m happy to hear that…I hope you don’t mind us talking to each other often here
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Not in the least. I love that we exchange in this forum. It has kept me sane through some really tough stuff..
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Yeah
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I’m from Utah…
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I’m from Quebec, in Canada… close to Montreal
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Wow that’s a beautiful place country and a beautiful place you from..
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I think so 😉
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Yeah…I do believe I’m going to travel to your country some day just to have a good time over there…
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I hope you do. We have lots to see!
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Yes
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I was born and raised in Utah…so how long have you been on here
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I was born and raised in the Montreal area as well… Hmm… lemme see, blogging at WP since August 2013 but used to blog at Blogger and Tumblr, off and on from 2009 till 2013
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Wow that’s a long time ago…and I do believe that you love it and also the people on here as well….I just create my blog not long ago I think it’s two weeks now…
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It’s a great community when you find the like-minded people.
Like I said, so many were there for me when I went through some tough times.
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OK…just can’t wait to be there…if possible meeting you as well…you know life is all about care and support
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You know it’s good to have friends all over the world no matter where they are from
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Oh man… you have got that right.
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Yeah.. having you as my friend is a great opportunity for me
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Ya think? 🙂
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Yes… please can I ask you for one favor please…. it’s there any way we can talk to each other often apart from here just to know more about ourselves as new friends…like Email address messages
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You have my email address in your comments 😉
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But I can’t see it….let me give you mine..alexdavid1101@gmail.com…just write on that email so that we can over there as well
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Can you be able to send it to me on here if you don’t mind
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