A word prompt to get your creativity flowing this weekend. How you use the prompt is up to you. Write a piece of flash fiction, a poem, a chapter for your novel…anything you like. Or take the challenge below – there are no prizes – it’s not a competition but rather a fun writing exercise. If you want to share what you come up with, please leave a link to it in the comments and that is right here. Remembering the less than fun part of dating, back when I bothered.
Why is it that the more aloof and unresponsive you are,
the more they pursue?
And from the moment you show interest and eagerness
you are left hanging, wondering what the hell just happened
This is an absurd paradox, a contradiction in words and actions
when from their lips come “I want you, I desire you”
while their demeanour, if not hands, push you away
It’s a cruel and useless game
It is a paradox, and not fun. She may have had more, but I only remember my mom going on a couple of dates after she and my dad divorced.
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It really isn’t fun. I don’t understand why so many choose to play this stupid game. I had my fill during a few years.
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Lovely capture of an awful thing. Been there, done that. When they show you who they are…. walkin’ away now.
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Thank you, Tara. Yeah. Sadly many like to play this waste of time game. Just keep on walkin’, I say!
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Mm hmm. Amen, sister!
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Amen!
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This piece, which I love how you set it up by the way . . in stanzas . . three, like a play and then that final brushstroke. This piece brings to mind the song “Wicked Game” the original by Chris Isaac, not the reboot version which is too techno for my taste.
It’s the human condition, I’m guessing, There is a thrill to the chase, to the hunt . . and then, once it becomes apparent the hunt is no longer necessary, some cool their heels or turn dime and just split altogether. Their work, according to the prevailing mindset, is done. They’ve chased and they’ve basically caught. On to someone else!
It is most definitely needless.
B
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B,
I thank you. I had to putz around with it for three times the amount of time it took me to write the damn thing! Yes. Wicked Game… I could have added that video. And changed my cruel to wicked. Hmm… Maybe I will 😉
It is the human condition. For some. And is one of the many reasons I’m done with that whole scene. Who needs the headache?
It is.
Q
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Hmmmm, LOL.
Yeah, I mean, I don’t want to pile on one sex here because let’s face it, there are plenty on both sides who love to play the wicked game. And they’re quite good at it. But I understand, when you’re in the online dating world, it is all so superficial, so it becomes so much easier for people to behave this way inside that cocoon. When I wanted to get back in the dating world after my divorce I tried it on for size for a time. Had a lot of fun with it, but there were the swings and misses that stung. Women who I would send a photo to after they approached me and then nothing. And I was like “What? No like? Hello?” But nothing.
It’s a heartless endeavor. Or it can be.
Fo sho.
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LOL away.
No, it is definitely not only on one sex. Both sides play these friggen games. And like you, after Mick died, I went on the sites and had me a good time. As long as I was playing not for keeps and not giving a damn, that is. Then there were the times where, hmmm… maybe a second date? Nope. ‘parently not. There were some stinging moments, for sure. It was exhausting after awhile.
It can be,
For shizzle.
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🙂
I realized that I didn’t need the thing once I had my sea legs back and ditched it. Well, at first I put it on sleep mode and then I ditched it.
Overall, I would rate my experience as fun. But beyond that, not worth the bread.
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Of course you didn’t. I’m sure you have palenty luck with the ladies when you want.
Oh hell no. And you had to pay to get the proper use – for some anyway 😉
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It’s a matter of just knowing what it’s about. It’s like the bar scene, only peeps have a lot of extra time with which to primp and prop and pose,
Hell, I remember when Match was Yahoo!
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This is true. Gah… the bar scene…
Hey… Way back, I was on Telepersonals – before internet! Course, I did meet Mick there so… turned out not too bad. 😉
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The bar scene was easier! LOL.
It’s so strange to think how the personals used to be via phone and newspapers. Seems like a million years ago.
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It was. You knew right away where things were going!
Tell me about it. But there was something nice about not knowing what the person looked like. One judged less quickly. For all I know, had it been on the apps of today, I mighta swiped left!
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And then peeps got wise to the online dating world and moved to other social media platforms that were free of charge. It became low key, LOL.
It’s true. Everything became surface oriented. the first thing you see is the pic.
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Yeah. Kind of takes the fun out of it, I say. Not that I would go back to that scene. But at the time, there were moments.
It is. We judge without even reading the profile (those who actually write one – and it might even be true!)
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Big time. But you can’t blame peeps for cutting costs and going with another form.
I used to write something at the end of my profile intro just to see who read it and who just looked at the pic.
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No, you can’t. It’s true that it can be costly. Unless you go, sip one drink really slowly and if there are no takers, leave.
I always wrote some kind of profile and you could tell most never read a word.
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I meant with them moving to other social media platforms that are free. When I was on the 800lb Blog, I noticed how single people were using it as a de facto dating site. I made light of it of course, but it made sense.
It’s true! I had a date with one lady in which she kept referring to things from my profile until I finally had to let her know she was confusing mine with someone else’s lol.
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Oh. Right. Who’d a thunk WordPress could be the next Match or Tinder?
Oh no!! Too funny. Well, not really. But yeah.
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Oh, it was Match and Tinder before Match was Tinder, LOL.
I didn’t mind. We both had a good laugh over it. She drank, so it was easier for both of us to discuss.
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Who knew? Not moi.
I’m sure you did. And, honestly, how can one get mad at the other when we could have made the same mistake? And yes, it helps when they partake of adult beverages.
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The three of us “listed” blogs that were fronts. We had one guy who was a beatnik poet and would write romantic erotica. So I asked him if his blog was really just a glorified dating profile and he skirted the question before finally admitting that maybe he dated a blogger or two, LOL.
If she had been a teetotaler, it would have been a long night.
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That is too funny. How naive am I? Never would I have thought a blog would be used as a way to meet men (or women).
Yeah, no kidding. I met some of those. What in the blessed fuck? At least those who specified they were saved me some precious time. Swipe left!
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Let’s just say we had a lot of fun pulling this thin veil off certain bloggers. Of course, the whole thing was even more hilarious considering I met someone on there, and then someone else and then Dan met someone when he shouldn’t have been looking!
Hahaha!
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I can well imagine. Too funny that you both did. And more than once – though with different intentions. 😏
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He was the one who made mention of it and then had the bug up his ass to do it. And then . . well, Days of Our Lives happened with that guy. Asshole.
😉
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Yeah. Dumbass. Some people don’t think past their nose (I would mention another protuberance but will keep it clean…)
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Buahahaha!
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A paradox and mystery. The hunter, the hunted, the catch, the release. I think for some people it’s simply sport.
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I KNOW for some it is simply sport.
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Probably comes from not knowing what they want, or not appreciating time much! 😉
Happy weekend! xoxoxoxoxo
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Yeah. Well they can go do their search elsewhere 😉 I’m done with wishy-washy.
Happy weekend to you, too! xoxoxo
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Oh, yes!! This is like an automatic repellent to me! 😉🤣😂
Happy… Sunday!!!!! 😘😘😘😘😘😘
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Indeed!
And to you, Marina! 😘😘
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xoxoxo
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Very well paced, my friend.
And … yes, it is indeed quite a paradox. As is some people’s inability to understand that ‘no’ is ‘no’ and that games aren’t what everyone wants to play.
Well done, you!
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Thank you, Ms Na’ama.
It is such a waste of time for the recipient of such dastardly deeds as well.
Glad you think so.
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Indeed, I agree. What was NOT a waste of time at all, however, was reading your piece! 🙂
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Awww… you da sweetest! xoxo
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XOXO
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Thats life 💜
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Says the woman happily married for a bazillion years… 🧡
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Yes that’s true but it’s had its ups and downs and it’s never plain sailing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Nothing is. Still.
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Yes indeed 💜
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I never understood the rules of this game either!
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Bloody hell. I think many make up the rules as they go along…
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Way too many games being played.
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And you’ve been out of the game for a good while. I want involuntarily thrown back in. I’ve way less patience for it now
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There remain games people play, whether I am in or out. 😉
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This is true.
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Let alone the gaming, human relationships are complicated. ,,,, and your paradox worked. 🙂
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Thank you, Frank. Glad you think so.
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A great statement of a paradox, Dale. The games are no fun for sure.
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Thank you, John. Having been the recipient more than once, I am all too familiar.
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Yeah, me too.
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I bet.
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Dear Dale,
Oh the games people play. Cruel and pointless. Well paced and well written piece in only 71. Good job.
Shalom and lotsa sincere hugs,
Rochelle
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Dear Rochelle,
They are cruel and pointless, for sure and certain. I’ve had more than my share, thank you very much. I’m done with it all.
Shalom and lotsa love,
Dale
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Since I love to be a little contrary…
I hated when this happened to me. It really does suck. But I know when I was a very insecure teen that I would like boys until they became interested in me. I suppose it had to do with my subconscious thought that anyone who would like unworthy me wasn’t worth much, either. It’s a hard thing to shake and always made me feel like a shit, too.
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And why not? 🙂
It’s never pleasant. Can’t believe it happened to me not that long ago, either. Pffft. It can’t help but make you feel like shit – and when you lack self-confidence, that makes it all just so much worse.
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For some people it really isn’t a “game” so much as a self-sabotaging defense that also hurts other people, albeit not really intentionally.
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Oh, I know it. And there are definitely those – and I am positive on this last one – that it is just a game.
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Bummer. Some people never grow up.
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This is true. Sigh. Next!! 😉
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I’ve had this happen to me many times before back in my days. It is a stupid game.
However, my girlfriend is everything to me and I love her dearly. She is the best. 🙂
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I’ve had it happen more recently. So done with it all.
Very happy for you both! 🙂
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I’m so sorry this has happen to you recently. How awful and stupid people can be this way. Are you okay?
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No worries. Not like my heart was affected. I just hate those people who string you along. Such a waste of energy
I’m more than fine.
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I agree with you on people who just string someone like that. It’s frustrating and annoying.
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It is frustrating, annoying and a total waste of time.
Guess I’ll remain an old single broad for a long time.
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Don’t say that Dale. You are such a beautiful and super talented woman. Fuck those men…I know a man out there will find you and take the relationship serious.
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Very sweet of you to say.
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There’s a different market for those people!
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Yeah well… they can go shop elsewhere. I’m done with all that crap.
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A great story using paradox. I am so glad I don’t have to play the dating game on anti-social media. It was so different all those many years ago when I was young & unattached and traveling the world with the Navy. It seemed so much more honest then as you couldn’t hide behind a computer screen with no emotion and say what you pleased. I don’t think I could play the dating gene anymore and am so glad I am attached to my lady for life. Good job Dale.
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Thank you, Jan. Indeed, a friend and I were discussing that, to a certain extent, even the bar scene is a tad more honest than the dating apps.
Yes. Do hold on to your lady. It was definitely not part of my plans to find myself single when I did.
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…and people ask me why I got out of the relationship game – it’s the single life for me!
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Amen, Keith. Doesn’t mean one can’t have some fun…
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Oh, I do!
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I confess I had no idea what your Paradox was about until I read the responses. I’ve been in two marriages of about twenty years each which ended in divorce initiated by me.
By then knew what I value in a partner and that it takes years to create such a relationship. It would be wonderful to love and be loved but dating wasn’t the answer for me. I have filled my life with love of family and friends.
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No worries… I take it as a positive that you never experienced it so didn’t recognize it.
I know what you mean. It would be nice but not at any cost.
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It’s the dance that underscores me having two left feet.
Nice job with the challenge though.
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This dance is totally uncoordinated, if you ask me…
Thank you.
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Boy can I attest to THAT fact!
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You and me both, Sistah!
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Hahaha!!
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In other words, don’t tell me. Show me. And I do so agree. 🙂
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Oh yes… And they do show you their real colours when they run.
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🙂
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Those were about the thoughts I had this morning when I was pestered AGAIN by a blogger who wants me (amongst others of course) to guest-blog and tell all about me – in more than 71 words and with photos too…. I feel like shouting: I’d like to push you away.
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You’re such a popular lady!!
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I don’t think so; I find it quite offensive when that person MUST KNOW by now that I do not wish to post…. but anyway, kind of you to think that thought! 😉 Love to you.
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If that person knows you and still asks… not cool. And I think you are so much love to you, too!
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Sending virtual kisses to you, love!
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Agree!!! fab example of a paradox, Thunder. I wish they would just leaf me alone!
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Hahaha! Thank you. Eejits. The lot of them. I’ve no more patience for the like.
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Yyy
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