‘Tis that time of year, isn’t it? Big ideas, resolutions, promises, goals and dissing the year that is closing up tonight at 11:59. So many peeps have said things like “Thank God it’s over, 2019 was the worse” or “2019, WTF was that?”
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
Was it really that bad? I mean, seriously. Yes, there have been some serious meteorologically awful situations (typhoons in Asia, heatwaves in India, cyclones in Africa, bushfires in Australia) and I suppose I could focus on shootings and political brouhaha going on all over the world but really, that’s not my style, is it? I am no Pollyanna but I do choose to give more attention to the good that is going on, rather than the bad.
So what is the purpose of this post? Nothing, really. I guess, like, say, 75% of the planet, I’m feeling reflective. Reflective, not in the throw back without absorbing way, nor to show an image of way, Not to embody or represent in a faithful way, nor to bring credit or discredit to anyone or anything way. And certainly not to bring about a good or bad impression of way. No, no, I’m talking about thinking deeply and carefully about things…
“Sometimes, you have to look back in order to understand the things that lie ahead.”
― Dead Beautiful
And so, I take this time to think back on the year that is about to end. I’ve made choices that have brought me to where I am today. While I am not entirely in awe of some of them, I am also choosing to look at them with a different eye. I am pondering on the ‘why’ of said choices and no longer angry at myself for making them in the first place. We all have a journey to take and, if we are wise enough to pay attention, any tripping, wrong turns, bumps in the road are, in fact, stepping stones towards something more, something better. It doesn’t matter what that something is because we each have our own. Others will give you advice or points of view – solicited or not – and we again have a choice to listen and accept, a portion of or all; or nod politely if said advice does not mesh with ours, and continue on our own path, at our own pace.
“Reflect upon your present blessings — of which every man has many — not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
― A Christmas Carol and Other Christmas Writing
By choosing to look at the good in my life ~and there are many, the not-so-good might actually start looking not-so-bad in the end. Well, let’s be honest. There are some things that are harder to swallow and turn into good or a valuable lesson – but these lessons are usually the ones that have the most impact, aren’t they? When we are forced to look in the mirror and acknowledge our part in what is going on, our misplaced pride takes a hit and we are humbled. There might still be some anger attached but, if we are honest, that anger dissolves into acknowledgment and then we can now focus one what to do next. Blessings, I have many. Misfortunes, I have some.
“We always see our worst selves. Our most vulnerable selves. We need someone else to get close enough to tell us we’re wrong. Someone we trust.”
― Naomi and Ely’s No Kiss List
And you know what? On those days where we just can’t see the good in us, then we should not be shy to go to our closest allies. The ones who know us, love us for who we are, and are not afraid to tell us the what’s what, followed by an “I love you. You got this. I’m here for you. And you are good enough.”
I am very blessed to have these peeps in my circle. Some are close and some are far, but all are within reach. To you, I say thank you. I love you.
And now, how about we ring in the NEW?
I wish for you to find the happy in what the new year brings, for love to warm your heart, for health to keep you moving forward, for friendships to keep you sane (or bring out your crazy), for enough prosperity to allow you to enjoy and take part in living your life. May laughter always be a part of every day!
We’ve got this!